GROWING UP

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Hello friends, I just joined a ‘Chama.’ It’s a women’s savings and investments group. When I got the invitation from one of my friends, I felt thrilled and couldn’t wait to be part of a team of like-minded ambitious young women. Being young is such a thrill but boy do we mess up while at it or what? That same messing up is actually called growth. We learn when we fail or succeed, when we try and do stuff… When we dare to imagine and attempt implementing our thoughts only to realize that it is not as viable or as feasible as we had thought…

My post today is only about beautiful beginnings and growing up. It is good to look back and see our own errors in judgment and learn that situations sometimes are bigger than us. I have learnt by observing my elders that things are best done in their order of priority. At the same time, I can’t help but hear my dad’s voice in my ears telling me to try and better prioritize my matters. I note now, as I did then that my Achilles’ heel is prioritization.

This has only been an issue with me mainly because I have always wished to meet people at their demand. Not to sound self-righteous - maybe I should add that also at my convenience- but mostly at their demand on the account that their reasons are valid. The two voices that have told me to forget about saving the world which I can recall on this instant belong to both my partner and another my former boss. It is impossible to impress everyone. But again I should add that these statements leaned towards making me available to them as opposed to me taking a breather when I need to and basically do me. We all have ulterior motives I suppose. So how do we define ulterior motives? When you buy a present for a friend, you feel good about yourself and also happy to make someone happy. When you invite guests at your house and play a host, this makes you happy and fulfilled as it does to them to feel loved and rightfully so.

Back to the chama story, so I offered to help in setting up the constitution because I was being nice (and pro-active as always-lol) I must thank the good Lord because there is joy in being willing to serve. I have basically educated myself in all the policy making rules, regulations and principles noted therein. I would have never learnt these things had I not offered to help. I immersed myself in a world of research- both primary and secondary- and gained so much knowledge and information all of which will forever remain with me as tools of my trade in all fields. I would like to encourage everyone who is in any group, be it an investment group or a common interest group to avoid thinking that being a passive member is a convenient thing. I am one month in and I am feeling even more thrilled to learn from these young ambitious women and grow with them as well.

Feeling blessed.

Sincerely,

Nekoye